Finding out that you and your girlfriend don’t agree about the pregnancy can leave you feeling uncertain, frustrated, or powerless. When emotions are running high, it’s easy to feel pressure to react quickly.
Instead, try to slow the conversation down. This is a significant decision, and taking time to gather accurate information can help both of you move forward with greater confidence.
Asking thoughtful questions now is one way to support her health, better understand the situation, and prepare for whatever comes next.
You can also reach out to Alpha Pregnancy Care Center for free and confidential pregnancy services and support.
Start With an Honest Conversation
Listen before you speak. Your girlfriend is probably more scared and overwhelmed than you are.
Ask about her fears instead of opening with your own conclusion, and try not to pass judgment while she processes out loud.
When you do share, share respectfully.
In conversations like these, it is easy to slip into pressure without realizing it. Let her know you want to keep the baby while making it clear that you hear her concerns and value her voice.
Rather than rushing her into a decision or making her feel pressured, it can sometimes be helpful to commit together to learn all the details about abortion, understand the details of the pregnancy, and what other options might be available.
Understand the Health Side of Abortion
While the legal decision is ultimately hers, both of you deserve accurate information about what abortion actually involves.
Ultimately, abortion doesn’t just affect the baby; it is a serious medical procedure that can affect your girlfriend’s health and future.
For example, according to Mayo Clinic, physical risks of medical abortion include:
- Incomplete abortion, which may require a follow-up surgical procedure
- An ongoing pregnancy when the medication does not fully work
- Heavy and prolonged bleeding
- Infection
- Fever
- Digestive issues such as nausea, vomiting, and diarrhea
Knowing the risks helps you both weigh the decision with your eyes open.
Get the Facts First
Before any decision is made, encourage her to get the specific facts about her pregnancy.
A lab-quality pregnancy test and an ultrasound scan will confirm the pregnancy and reveal the gestational age, location, and viability of the pregnancy.
These details matter because certain options, like the abortion pill, are only FDA-approved through 10 weeks of gestation.
An ultrasound can also reveal a miscarriage or an ectopic pregnancy, which would change the picture entirely.
Learn Your Options
Part of what may be pushing your partner to choose abortion is fear that having a baby will be the end of her hopes and dreams.
In reality, the opposite is true. Thanks to resources and support groups in your community, your girlfriend can continue to pursue her future school or career plans, while you, as a couple, get the support and assistance you need to raise your baby.
Alpha Pregnancy Care Center Is Here for Both of You
Alpha Pregnancy Care Center offers free lab-quality pregnancy testing and ultrasounds, so you and your girlfriend can begin with facts rather than fear.
Our caring team can answer your questions, talk through every option, and discuss what support is available to you, such as free parenting classes, life skills training, maternity and baby supplies, and referrals to community resources.
You do not have to sort this out alone. Contact us today to schedule your free and confidential appointment.
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